Happy Holidays! xx
Happy Holidays! xx
I’m an empath. I pick up on energy and can actually feel what someone else is feeling, especially in times of stress or brokenness. But ever since I can remember I’ve used the infamous saying, “it’s a gift and a curse” when someone’s asked me how I feel about having this trait. As of lately I’ve decided it is 100% a gift.
I consider myself pretty normal except for the fact that I’m hypersensitive to my surroundings. I feel deeply – whether happy or sad. I laugh effortlessly. I cry easily. Seriously. Do you know how many times people have asked me if I’m okay because they see me crying at work and it’s just because I’m listening to the Inception film score? Too many to count. Do you know how many times I’ve been told by an ex boyfriend to stop crying? It should have been one had I decided to break up with him on the spot as I rightfully should have done, but I digress.
See, the thing is… I think having a heart like mine in 2017 is vital. Notice my word choice here. The word vital literally means “necessary to the existence, continuance, or well-being of something“. There have been studies that show that over the last twenty years we actually care considerably less about other people. This has a lot to do with the information overload we receive on a daily basis because of technology as a whole, but that’s another blog post for another day. I’m bringing this up to serve as proof that the world needs change. It needs compassion. Without softhearted people, society will only become more cruel and desensitized.
It’s really interesting getting advice from friends on specific topics because I’ve noticed that they never seem to be as forgiving as me. I thought I was crazy for a really long time because of that. Am I too soft? Why am I so quick to forgive? Why do I give second chances so easily when the world is yelling at me through an LED screen telling me to toughen up and cut people out of my life? Every time I scroll down my timeline I’m reminded how normal jealousy, envy and quick tempers are becoming. Memes have kind of taken over. There’s no need to fix my destructive behavior if thousands of people agree and think it’s funny, right?
And then I remember Jesus. I like to believe that He was an empath when He walked this earth. In the book of John, Jesus comforts Mary when her brother had died. When He saw her crying, He wept. Jesus, the man who made the blind see & healed the lame chose to cry alongside a mourning sister despite Him knowing the miracle He would perform. He was near to the brokenhearted. He understood their grievances.
Living in a place like New York City can be rough for an empath. My heart breaks every single time I pass someone in need that I’m not able to help. I remember two years ago specifically praying that God would break my heart for what broke His, and I’m finally understanding that through this answered prayer, I was called to move to this city. Although this journey has only just begun, I’m continuously praying that I remain soft. That this city does not make me hard.
My hope in you reading this post is that you would gain one of two things from it:
If you identify with anything I’ve written above and you find yourself as an empath feeling crushed by the horrors of this world, I pray you realize that God gave you this heart for a reason, and He will shape the back that bears the burden placed upon it. Go out and do the world good by showing kindness – it will always be worth it regardless of you seeing the fruits of your labor. Forgive others. (Seventy times seven, remember?)
If you don’t identify with anything I’ve written above and you can’t seem to understand what it’s like feeling anything I’ve described, I pray you find the ability to be patient with the ones in your life that do. Please do not ask us to “man up” or to stop crying. Our gift is vital. I hope one day you’ll find the beauty in that.
Hey you. How’s it going? It’s been a while since I’ve written anything on my site. Please forgive me.
I wanted to just sit & write about something that’s been weighing heavy on me. I hope I’m able to get my point across eloquently.
So, as many of you probably know, I have a YouTube channel. Not a huge one, but I’m able to interact with lovely people all around the world. About a week ago I got a comment from a subscriber that kind of… well… shook me up. The subscriber said that based off of my Instagram feed, she would love to have my lifestyle and be me. Be. Me. I immediately teared up while reading that… and not because I felt great. This person has no idea that in 72 hours I have my routine appointment with my therapist. This person has no idea that I deal with depression and anxiety to the point where there are days I can’t leave my bed because I physically cannot muster up the energy to do so (Thank God this has gotten loads better). This person does not want to be me.
With that being said, let’s discuss my title choice. “The New OCD”.
Obsessive Comparison Disorder.
Yes, absolutely made up and a play on words. But this is quite literally what I feel is happening to so many of us. Why have we become so obsessed with other people? Their lives? Their appearance? Why are we constantly comparing ourselves to other people? Why do we feel inadequate? Why aren’t we captivating?
Top: Urban Outfitters
Blazer: Jessica Simpson Style
Heels: LuLus Clothing
Sunnies: Desi Perkins X QUAY – High Key
It’s been a hot minute since I’ve posted on my site, so hi again! Happy Valentine’s Day! How are you? Really… how are YOU? Especially during this Valentine’s season it’s important to take a step back and reflect on, well… you. I’ve realized that this holiday has become so commercialized (yes, I know I have heart shaped balloons in my pictures. Let me live!). It’s all about chocolates (I don’t mind them though. I also don’t mind the 15th, when they’re all half off LOL), teddy bears, gifts, etc.
This year I’m not in a relationship and won’t be celebrating the “common” way, but I am making it a point for self-reflection. Am I loving myself? Am I being kind to myself? Am I taking care of my body? Am I loving others the way I should be as a Christian? These things should always be considered, but it’s so easy to get wrapped up in all the craziness with day-to-day things and forget that these things are important.
To me, Valentine’s Day is no longer just about hoping I have a Valentine. That’s totally cool if I do, but I don’t want to get so hung up on having someone there that I forget that the holiday is about LOVE. Loving your friends, loving your wonky nose, loving the trees that so generously provide the air for you to breathe, loving your siblings, and most importantly… loving yourself.
There are hundreds of bible verses I could post in here, but there’s one in particular that really resonated with me. “Let all that you do be done with love.” 1 Corinthians 16:14. Everything we do really flows from the heart. I don’t ever want to become so consumed in false idols that I forget this. I want everyone in my life, whether I’m single or not, to know how much I care about them by acting on it. By showing initiative. By being quick to forgive (I’m workin’ on that one). By acting with intention rather than reacting.
I hope that this Valentine’s Day you realize how insanely loved you are, whether you have someone buying you chocolates and flowers or not. I hope that if you feel lost, you fall closer to God. I hope that if you feel shameful, you remember that He keeps no record of our wrongs. I hope that if you’re heartbroken, you recognize that time will pass and it won’t last forever. “I will never forget you. See, upon the palms of My hands I have written your name.” – Isaiah 49:15-16
P.S. Perhaps we should love ourselves so fiercely, that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done. – Rudy Francisco
With lots of love,
Hi guys! I decided to go cruelty-free a few months ago and I thought I’d give you some tips, as well as a list of companies.
With all of that being said, I found a page on Cruelty Free Kitty’s website that listed a plethora of cruelty-free makeup companies. She has lists of other beauty and skincare companies that aren’t directly under “cosmetics” but today I’ll only be giving you the list of cosmetics in alphabetical order. Feel free to copy and paste all the names into your notepad on your phone so that you can reference them in the future for easy/data-free shopping. I’ll link her website down below. If you’re thinking of going cruelty-free, she has SO MANY HELPFUL POSTS! Please, please, please check out her page. Also, please note this list is not exhaustive. If you know of any companies that I might have missed, please email me or drop a comment down below and I’ll have this updated. People might give you the “one person isn’t going to change the world” spiel, but don’t listen to them. As quoted by Suzi, “As consumers, we can make a real change by choosing which brands we support.”
CRUELTY-FREE HIGH END
Hey, guys! It’s been a while since I’ve posted on my site – it’s been crazy!
I just recently left the company that I worked at for the past four years so that I’d be able to dedicate more time to school and focus a lot more on the social media side of things, since that’s what I’m going to be pursuing. With that being said, I’ll be posting a lot more frequently on my YouTube and on my website so stay tuned for new content.